Scriptures has it that God fell in love with us even before we were conceived. God brought us into existence because He loved us. But, as we all know, it is one thing to be loved and its another thing to know (and appreciate) that you’re loved.
In order to forge a healthy loving relationship a reprocity of love between the parties involved is a must. Many of us don’t enjoy a rewarding relationship with our loving creator because we’re yet to understand the dynamics of divine love.
The use of the term “fall in love” or “having a crash” implies that the process is some what accidental – unexpected, unplanned, and uncontrolled. In addition, falling in love with somebody comes with an element of damage or pain, something that many of us either don’t realise or don’t want to accept.
According to a researcher Donatella Marazziti of the University of Pisa, Italy when two people fall in love their hearts and hormones ignite a biological state that is a high similar to being on cocaine that puts them in emotional overdrive.
More interestingly, Donatella Marazzit says love asks you to lower your defences and loosen up your personal boundaries so that you can merge your needs and desires with those of your lover. This process can be threatening and make you feel vulnerable. Nonetheless, this is the making of a strong, healthy relationship attachment.
Falling in love with God – having an exposure to the Love of God – is more or less the same. Our first experience with God always evoke some refreshing and exciting feeling, but leaving us vulnerable to enormous pain at the same time.
Falling in love with God is very different from being religious. Unlike religion, falling in love with God is a matter of appointment rather than of choice. As Jesus said, it is a bout God choosing to open the streams of His love in us, not us choosing to love Him – John 15:16.
It’s like an orthodox (old school) courtship/marriage where the bride to be (God) dates and proposes to his future wife (and not other way round)!
Being religious is trying to please God and win His approval, but being in love with God is to be pleased with Him and appreciating His approval.
Religion is about seizing the initiative – doing something for God, whereas falling in love with God is about God taking the initiative to introduce Himself to us , and once we are exposed to Him we can’t help but to adore Him, surrender and appreciate His enduring love, awesome power and abstruse wisdom.
Being in Love with God is not an event but an enduring relationship within which God is a dominant partner and we , the beloved, as humble obedient partners. In this case, being in love with God is being full of divine love that makes you consentingly vulnerable – willingly choosing to losing yourself , forfeiting your personal interests and live for God.
Although falling in love with God is always accidental to us, to God is anything but accidental. God doesn’t wake up one morning and say I’m going to reveal myself to xyz today. Instead, He deliberately and carefully plans ahead of time (before we were born, in fact) about the nature and the timing of the “crash” that will bring the desired impact.
True love is a personal affair, and intimancy is enjoyed best in a private, secret, quiet, exclusive and often dark environment. That’s why true worship (having intimacy with God), as Jesus said, must take place in the spirit. To fully appreciate God (the epitome of true love) this experience must happen at the core of our heart, it must be deeply private, and personal. In order for the bond of love between us and God to properly gel, there must not be any ‘dust’ in between.
No wonder, then, falling in love with God is always preceded by loss and pain. Before God can reveal to you (depending on the level of intimacy God want to forge with you) He will subject you to the loss of relationships, reputation, career, assets, finances and even health.
In the bible all people who had a life changing experience with God had their lives crashed just prior to their experience.
God revealed and fortified His affirmative love to His son Jesus Christ in the wilderness. This happened in the wilderness not sooner after Jesus had gone hungry for forty days, tested and bruised by the Devil.
Elijah was tired, stressed and suicidal. God came for his rescue and wanted to talk to him in person. God chose to meet Elijah in the cave, at night. Elijah had to travel deep in the desert for days to this place. Even then God could not speak to him until there was a series of dramatic display of strong wind, a terrifying earthquake and a mighty fire.
Moses met God during a “burning bush” experience. This happened in the middle of the desert when Moses was alone. This was after he had lost everything including his status as prince of Egypt, and was living in a foreign land as a fugitive.
God had a “blessing” appointment with Jacob. Of all places He chose to meet him in the open bare desert, alone, at night. The experience was incredible and went on for a while. Jackob saw the heavens split open, angels ascending and descending before changing his life with a blessing. The Lord, though, did not release the blessing until He had dislocated Jacob’s hip.
Saul (later Paul) met his master who “blindly” changed the course of his life (in the desert) on the way to Damascus. Afterwards Paul was led into the desert of Arabia for years . While there Paul fell in love with God and received unprecedented revelations that has shaped not only the Church but the entire world. But this very experience left Paul with a permanent pain (he called it a thorn).
I became a committed christian at 12, and for over four decades I tried to love God with all of my heart. For decades I religiously tried to please God and toiled to win His favor. But my spiritual experience with God completely changed when I was baptised in a deep river of God’s love. Since then my walk with Him has been fulfilling and refreshing.
Strangely though, this wonderful, indescribable experience climaxed at midnight, following months of agonising trauma of divorce that included losing virtualy everything – job, money, house, and children.
What I’m saying is that unplanned and uncontrolled trauma is a sign that God is about to reveal Himself. If you are going through a thorny issue – a problem that is not due to fault of your own, or that happened at the back of you doing what you believe to be morally, spiritually or legally right and you can’t do anything to change it – my advise to you is to hold your peace and trust God. Know that He is in control of the situation and something good will come out of all this.